Feeling sorry for oneself is an energy draining, self-destructive habit. Self-pity turns an intelligent human being into a victim and creates a very toxic relationship with friends and family. It stops one from recognizing that the ego has a chokehold on them and is masquerading as their friend.
Emotionally intelligent beings experience reality as it is, not as they would like it to be. Another trait emotionally intelligent people have is that they don’t indulge in addictive behaviors. They know that escaping reality is not an option. They have come to realize through their own life experiences that the safest place is in the eye of the storm, where you experience the “what is” and then make an informed choice based on inner integrity.
The best antidote for self-pity is: strong work ethic, walking ones talk and staying focused on ones life’s purpose.