An unwholesome mind is dangerous mind. When we set a goal that does not reflect our core values we produce mediocre results. Failure is a choice that is usually made by someone who has an undisciplined mind. An excuse is a clear sign of an undisciplined mind. Commitment to your life’s purpose requires a disciplined mind.
If one thinks that their assets are what they have in their bank account and the house they own, they have truly devalued themselves. Your inner integrity is the most valuable asset you have. If you can be honest with yourself and take a good look inside, you will see that you can make do with out your assets, but you cannot thrive without inner integrity.
Our habits and behaviors shape our destiny. I have been to hell and back and when I look back, I wouldn’t change a thing. For it is through my experiences I have discovered the power of life transforming habits.
“Many of life’s failures are people who didn’t realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
– Thomas Edison
Quitting is easy, but it takes a lot of courage to keep going when you can’t see the end result. One way to not loose your focus is to smell, taste, feel and touch what success looks like for you. My teacher Goenkaji used to say, “The path is very long…but every step on the path will take you to the final goal. Keep taking steps on the path.”
Feeling sorry for oneself is an energy draining, self-destructive habit. Self-pity turns an intelligent human being into a victim and creates a very toxic relationship with friends and family. It stops one from recognizing that the ego has a chokehold on them and is masquerading as their friend.
Emotionally intelligent beings experience reality as it is, not as they would like it to be. Another trait emotionally intelligent people have is that they don’t indulge in addictive behaviors. They know that escaping reality is not an option. They have come to realize through their own life experiences that the safest place is in the eye of the storm, where you experience the “what is” and then make an informed choice based on inner integrity.
The best antidote for self-pity is: strong work ethic, walking ones talk and staying focused on ones life’s purpose.
I have been invited to speak and facilitate a workshop at the 10TH International Conference on Imagination and Education on July 2nd to July 4th, at Simon Fraser University, downtown campus. The workshop I am facilitating is on how to go from Stuck to Unstoppable in Education. In this workshop conference participants will discover how to:
- build a growth mindset culture in classrooms
- change student’s thinking about success and performance to manifest positive change
- collapse disempowering behaviors and habits to improve a student’s productivity and enhance their performance